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GG Weekend Post Mortem
So the post mortem analyses are still moving across the dash. The reactions varying from a visceral disdain to concern for Caitriona. Much of it deliberately vicious, just because, and many like me pondering the year that Caitriona has lived in 2018.
It has been without doubt her Annus Horribilis.
A truly horrible year!! And we have been on that journey with her, trying to understand the choices and decisions she had made as regards her public engagement, pardon the pun, with us, her fans. A catalogue of missteps and at times, barely disguised contempt for the need to engage and be available for fan interaction. Yet I have nothing but compassion for her. I imagine living my life the way she has, in the spotlight, and I cannot imagine still standing and turning up for the next event. And yes all her own choices.
The focus on her clothing, hair, makeup comes with the job. She knows that. Did I like all of her clothing choices.. No. But I certainly admire her strength in turning up. She is beautiful enough to carry off the bad choices. But it was the sadness in her eyes that spoke more than any fashion hit and miss
The eyes don’t lie as we all well know. And hers were very melancholy. This was the third awards season she had to attend without Sam. The third with a very trusted friend fronting as her SO. One who makes not the slightest effort to seemed interested and even happy for her. So when she teared up during Glenn Close’ acceptance speech she showed the toll and strain the engagement has wrought on her.
It’s interesting that discussion of a movie, The Wife, and it’s subject matter would bring her to tears. Sacrifice, family, ambition. And finding the balance. It hit her straight in the heart.
Sam mentioned in an interview last year that the last movie to make him cry was The Light Between Oceans. Michael Fassbender and Alicia Vikander the leads. Filmed in a part of Western Australia reasonably remote they fell in love while filming. Their own love bubble. Sound familiar. The subject matter intense. Essentially it’s a story about a man who does everything for the woman he loves. And who can forget that Sam said he would do anything for Caitriona. This is the last movie which moved him to tears.
Forward to the close up of Caitriona with tears in her eyes and it was enough to break my heart. Another movie with subject matter which hit close, too close to home. Yet these are the choices she has made in the past year. Only she can change perceptions regarding fan mistrust and confusion.
So for me the weekend events were not so much about her outfits really but the very fragile state that Caitriona presented in the first public events of the year. A picture of a woman needing to have the support of the man she calls her every day partner, both personally and professionally.
She can be forgiven a couple of fashion missteps.
Bravo!!!!!
“…she showed the toll and strain the engagement has wrought on her.”
“It hit her straight in the heart.“
“…the very fragile state that Caitriona presented…A picture of a woman needing to have the support of the man she calls her every day partner, both personally and professionally.”
This is why many of us have expressed concern for Cait’s well being. Thank you for saying it with such eloquence and compassion, @samheughanswife.
👋👋 Her demeanour changed and she became defensive with fans from the moment her ‘engagement ‘was announced. This is a woman who hates living a lie and copes, such as it is, by withdrawing when she can and lashing out when she’s cornered. Give her back her life and we’ll see a totally different Cait.
And even with all of this, I still think she had more fun this year than in the previous one, when the narrative started. I just wanted someone to hold her when she got so moved by Glen’s speech.